Dear Joy,
You trusted me long before it was safe. I was a swinging
bachelor on my own, while you still had 2 years of blue book exams and
cafeteria food left.
Yet with all those miles between us, you had a devotion that dissolved the painful infidelities of my past. You were the first to show me
what relentless commitment looks like. There was simply nothing there not to trust.
But my trust runs far deeper than relational fidelity and
faithfulness.
I trust you because you’re a remarkable mother. You carried
our four children in your womb. You fed them from your breast. You pushed life-sustaining
syringes into their skin on next to no sleep. You gave, and you gave—and you
give—putting the household needs ahead of your own. There is simply nothing
there not to trust.
I trust you because you are less right-brained (or more
left-brained) than I am. You’re better with the bills and the
books. My paycheck flows right into our joint account, and you see that it all
gets where it needs to go. We discuss the budget and significant spending
decisions, and I trust you with the rest. Not once have I doubted the stroke of
your pen, or the swipe of your card. There is simply nothing there not to trust.
I trust you with my body. And I really don’t care to say
much more about that on a public blog. ;-)
Most importantly, I trust you because I know God has us both
in His grip. His presence gives me the grace to forgive and forget your faults,
and silences the voices that try to whisper things to me about you that are not
true.
Without God, grievances pile up, and every move becomes suspect. With
God, I am free to trust you with complete abandon—be it with boys, bills or the
bedroom.
Did you just put one lump in my coffee, or two?
With love (and trust),
Scott
On Mondays, Joy and I join Seth and Amber Haines as they fight the good fight for their marriage. They call this weekly series “Marriage Letters” and pray that it encourages each of us in our own hard work of marriage. Next week's prompt is “Enduring Loss Together.” You can join us any time with your own letter to your spouse, whether you both write or blog or not. Amber hosts a link-up on her blog, so we hope you’ll share your letter there!
On Mondays, Joy and I join Seth and Amber Haines as they fight the good fight for their marriage. They call this weekly series “Marriage Letters” and pray that it encourages each of us in our own hard work of marriage. Next week's prompt is “Enduring Loss Together.” You can join us any time with your own letter to your spouse, whether you both write or blog or not. Amber hosts a link-up on her blog, so we hope you’ll share your letter there!
Lovin' these letters, Scott. Thank you for faithfully posting them each week and for faithfully living them day by day.
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ReplyDelete"Most importantly, I trust you because I know God has us both in His grip. His presence gives me the grace to forgive and forget your faults, and silences the voices that try to whisper things to me about you that are not true." Great line. All because of God's grace.
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